June 19, 2008

Our Adoption Story: Part 2

June 19, 2008

Dear hubby and I have officially been legally approved for adoption! After 20 long weeks of paperwork, time, sweat, energy, money, and waiting FOREVER for our criminal background checks to pass three states, we are finally done!!!! Our web profile is online now. YEAH!!

On a totally random note, we received a call from a private agency, Heart to Heart Adoptions, asking if we were interested in using them. They had heard from a friend that had used them that we were certified at Agency A. They apparently have more babies in their pipeline than willing adoptive families for ethnic children. After much contemplation, and understanding that our wait time could be around four years with Agency A, we felt good about making a change. So in a crazy whirlwind two days, we copied all of our information, released our homestudy with Agency A, and began certification via Heart to Heart as well.

You NEVER know what is going to happen with adoption. You must have faith that the Lord with place the right baby in your home on His timeline. So we do the work, we’ve done all we can do, and now we wait.

Note: There was WAY more stress, energy, and craziness involved in those two days than I have depicted here. I just thought I would sum it all up and spare everyone all the stressful details!


June 25, 2008

Heart to Heart called today to tell us that everything is officially approved through them! We are excited to now be available to two different agencies, but particularly with H2H since they have so many babies coming down the pipeline. We are anxiously awaiting our first profile showing!


June 26, 2008

Today we received a call letting us know that H2H has an available situation in which they want to profile our family! That was quick! We were used to the idea of a wait, but this was much faster than we ever imagined!

Private agencies are different from Agency A in that you have more options as an adoptive family. At Agency A, a birth mom receives all of your info first and if they like you, she picks you. Turning down a baby then is very much discouraged since it could be a long time to get picked again. There is definitely an underlying feeling of “count-your-blessings” if you are selected by a birth mom.

With many private agencies, they can have far more birth moms than adoptive families. This is particularly the case when an agency deals more with trans-racial babies. We are very willing to adopt trans-racially, so we are in a very select group. I think H2H said they have 7-8 families right now that will accept those babies, and about 9 birth mom scheduled to deliver in the next few months.

So today we received that first call. They wanted to show us a birth mom’s profile, all her medical history, birthfather’s medicals, extended families info, baby gender, hobbies, education, delivery location, photos (if they have any), etc. Then we decide whether or not that birthmother can see our profile. The agency said they will only profile three families to a birth mom at a time so as to not overwhelm her. Then if she does not like any of them, they profile another three. Of course, with butterflies in our stomachs, we agreed to have our profile shown. The showing won’t be until Monday, since that is when the birth mom was available to meet at the office. We are nervous!

Info on this situation: Baby boy, due July 23rd, African American, sounds very healthy. Birthmom is 5’2″. Birthfather is 6’1″. She has two other daughters, a three year old and a 12 month old (the latter is a full-blood sibling to the baby). Birthmom is 18. She is totally committed to adoption and is ready to find the family and return home. That’s it in a nutshell.

Of course, showing our profile doesn’t mean anything solid. We all realize we can’t get too emotionally involved yet, but it’s another step in the process of adoption that will eventually bring us our baby. It’s nice to feel like we are making forward progress. But here’s to hoping….

June 27, 2008

Do you ever feel like God is testing you? Expecting you to make the best choice you can and see if you have faith to follow through? Do you ever question whether God is trying to tell you not to do something… or whether it is Satan simply trying to thwart a good thing? Lately I am having a hard time deciding what is going on. I don’t think it is coincidence that the very week we decide to go with private adoption, taking a little leap of faith, with the extra finances involved there, that…

  • My car freon dies leaving me with no air conditioning. The first week it hits 100F and the kids have 5 places to be in any given day. Cost to repair: $400.
  • We figure out we may have grubs in our yard eating our grass. Lawn looks awful. Cost to repair: $120 for grub killer, $150 for sod patches.

  • We find out the twins need glasses. Costs: $90 for both eye checks, $100 for each set of glasses.
  • Home air conditioner died. On a Saturday night, with no hope for help on a Sunday. Cost to repair: $150

  • R falls in the shower and splits her eye open.  Off we go to the doctor for stitches.  Cost to stitch: $200.
All of this after paying $15K to put a drainage system in our basement because of neighborhood flooding concerns (the homebuilder says they are not responsible). Does that mean we aren’t supposed to adopt with H2H? That we shouldn’t commit our financial resources to a baby, OR is it Satan trying desperately to discourage us from adding to our eternal family??? I just don’t know! I am so confused. I have been praying for weeks to feel that powerful reassurance that we will make the right decision. I know that blessings tend to come after the trial of our faith. Of course, now that situations are about to start falling into our laps and we are mentally prepared for the financial addition, we are getting bombarded with extraneous expenses. Help!

July 9, 2008

Sadly, we officially heard that “birthmom A” decided to place with another family. =o(  Of course we are so disappointed to not have been picked, but in adoption we must accept that there are never any guarantees. Apparently the birthmom would have preferred a family with fewer kids, and so we have no other choice but to move on. It is sad, because for some reason I feel so drawn to her!  Not just because she was the first birthmom to consider us… I cannot explain it.  Oh well, I know that when the right baby is here, it will happen. Until then, we just wait and keep trying to hold on…

When we received this news, before H2H hung up the phone, they asked if they could profile us to one other birthmother. Wow!  Really, so quickly??? Situation: Baby boy, African American, due Sept 9th. Birthmom is 29 and has 3 other children. The birthfather is not in the picture and she can’t support another baby. She will deliver in Utah, and is from Louisiana. Everyone is healthy. We agreed to be shown.

July 12, 2008

I need to start writing about all of this or I am going to forget how I am feeling! We have been on vacation back to Missouri, of course! For the Fourth of July holiday. 

Yesterday, as we began the drive home after visiting Jamesport (small Amish town with no cell reception),

about 10 miles outside the township we received a voice message. The voicemail was from Kim, our caseworker at H2H, saying that ‘birth mom B’ had decided to place with another family. We were devastated!

Here is the crazy news!  Kim then told us that birthmom A had decided she wanted to proceed with us after all!!! What a roller coaster!  Kim then asked if we could meet for dinner on Monday night with our birthmom. Today is Saturday late afternoon and we were still a few states away… I have never seen my husband drive so fast!!!  The drive across Wyoming seemed like it would never end!

We were excited and nervous all wrapped up in one! We had both felt more drawn to ‘birthmom A’ rather than ‘birth mom B’, but tried to discount it because nothing was sure. Now remember, ‘birthmom A’ is due on July 23rd so that is only 11 days from our phone call! You can’t even imagine all the things that went through my head in that moment. We were just so excited and overwhelmed that we probably looked like lunatics to everyone at the gas stations and restaurants all the way home! We spent the entire 16-hour drive home talking about nothing but this fantastic news, etc! Thinking about what to name him, what we needed to get ready, how excited we were for a baby boy, how nervous we were to meet the birthmom on Monday, etc. I even made my husband stop at a Gap Outlet in Park City so that I could run in and shop. (I only bought one little onesie, but it was fun to finally shop in the BOY section!)

To read more, click Our Adoption Story: Part 3


  • Bailey – baileytube15

    This is so cute! So happy that Daxton and Paisley joined your family, and things really did work out in the best way 🙂

  • Hamnah Riaz

    I feel sooooooooo sad for paisley and Dayton they must have been so sad and scared when they were adopted and had to see their real mothers face for the last time it looks like paisley is scared in the pic but at least they get to live in a really nice family

  • alison

    are brooklnn and baliey off for adopion and camrie and raayan and daxon and sweetpea

  • alison

    and they have to be cute a pretty and they have to by white.

  • alison

    and i a have two kids.I want more so eny of you girls have seen a wesite that wloud be helpful that will be nice a emile me at this and i want twines and there have to be girls at lest a nuthers kid it can be a boy or a girl.And thanks if you do that thanks agien?

  • alison

    HI my name is alison.

  • Angela Lo

    Oh! Rylan actually have a twin! How sad it is to lose her. So do your family think it is enough to have 6 kids?

  • Very interesting post, please write a next post on this topic 🙂

  • omg mindy i love your youtube channel i watch it 24/7 lol and i love brooklyn and bailey’s channel too<3<3<3

  • Wow what an awesome family

  • hi i love love your website i just watch it 24 /7 the same videos and practise them and it is quite easy

  • hi

  • Lauren

    Hello, reading your story is so eye-opening for me. I’m 20 years old and all my life I’ve been ill with 3 disabilities, I’ve had countless operations and visited many doctors in many hospitals… I tell you this because I used to be religious, but I lost my faith a long time ago when time and time again I would lose everything, but reading your story with your unconditional faith and love of God makes me really want to reconnect with him… And when I feel I can’t do anymore than I already try, to put all my trust in him and leave it in his hands as you did. God bless you, you have a wonderful family and you’re inspirational <3

  • Kendi

    This really touched my heart. My aunt and uncle just recently went to Africa to hopefully adopt a little Ethiopian girl. I knew that they were under stress, but I couldn’t relate. This opened my eyes to God’s miracles and showed me how to relate to my aunt and uncle. Thank you for sharing your touching story

  • bunnylover

    Omg that is so amazing I am so happy for u even thought I read it like a year after but either way u right really good I think u should publish it own book

  • Hey! Read the whole thing in one time. Love ur YouTube channel !

  • Hey Mindy! How are you doing?-I read the whole thing. I am a Europian fan and ❤ur channel! I am absolutely amazed a now hard the most complicated looking hairstyles are THAT easy! Oh-and question! Where can I buy a topsy turn? And bendini clip if you know where to find one! Plz answer my questions,and I nope you have a blissful day! Bye!!

  • Khariza Cervantes

    I would looove to be your daughter!!! All those hairstyles. My mom doesnt even know how to do a frenchbraid! Are you looking for one more kid to adopt? Just Kidding!

  • Mindy, your daughters are very pretty!

  • im 8 years old and i love watching cute girls hairstyles your family looks so cute together. i hope everything is okay .i think your the best on youtube .i will always iove your channel and adopiton storys.

  • hey mindy iam ur big fan and i want you to join me in gmail.

  • Awww you guys have such a cute family! I love it!!!

  • Yolande, Age:12

    You guys are the awesomest family i’ve ever heard of you guys rock

  • Roseleena

    OMG! I should tell my mom to read this whole story, she thinks we’re having a hard time right now!

  • Claire

    Wow. And I thought my life was crazy!

  • Julie

    Your sooooooo amazing and you have the most beautiful family!! Where do you live in Utah?