Just a quick update on the non-preemie twins first… they have been matched! Thanks to all that called about them! I heard the agency received quite a few phone calls. Several phone calls came in after the twins had been matched – so keep checking back to find another situation perfect for you!
*****Here’s the newest situation…(if this one doesn’t break your heart I don’t know what will)*****
4 Year old girl, Caucasian, fees are $8000. Family must be home study ready, LDS, and NOT live in Utah county. I am told she looks like a young Dakota Fanning. Blonde hair, blue eyes, very cute.
Here’s the brief rundown…this little girl was adopted as a newborn into a family that had biological children as well. Apparently the mother never bonded with her like she did with her bio children. As a result the sweet little girl has experienced some neglect. She currently has some developmental delays relating to memory, visual sequencing, and learning. She has seen several dr’s recently and they all seem to think with the correct therapy (AND LOVE) she will catch up by age 7-8. She has progressed well in school.
Obviously they want to place this little girl in a loving home as quickly as possible. I was told that the little girl doesn’t seem to have any bonding issues. In fact she still tries to bond with the mother, despite the poor treatment. Remember that because she is 4 years old, you would be able to meet and talk with the girl right away to see if you are the right family! How cool is that!? Help me save the life of this poor sweet girl and find the RIGHT family that will love her like the child of God that she is!
If you want more info, think you might be the family, or know someone that would be….call Megan Roth at 801-838-8014. Tell her Mindy sent you.
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Yesterday our agency (Heart to Heart) contacted us with another situation they wanted help with. They get such a huge response each time we post, that they asked us for interested people before even putting these babies on their website.
I think this situation sounds like a dream situation. Literally I would adopt them myself (even with the little Dude only being 6 months) if I had the 33K. So if anyone out there wants to donate/sponsor the adoption for me—let me know. LOL! Otherwise we will have to find them another home.
So here is the run down:
African America twins (one boy, one girl). The mother is due Feb 11th (so that makes her about 35 weeks now). She is very healthy, the babies are healthy. They are expecting her to deliver a little early due to it being twins, but right now they don’t know when. The mother will deliver in Utah. The agency will use Utah law (one of the best states for adoptive families in the nation!).
This birth is going undisclosed to the birth dad (meaning he does not and will not know about them or that she is pregnant). Since it is Utah law, the dad doesn’t have to be notified and will have no rights at birth. He will not even be put on the birth certificate. Mom can sign over her rights 24 hours post-delivery.
The birth mom is on medicaid so almost all medical will be paid for by the government.
Fees are 33K (that includes 30k for the agency, 2k for the medical, and $850 for the DPR).
Basically each baby would be $16,500. That’s almost LDS social services rates! UGH….I would LOVE to get my hands on these little ones!!!
If you are interested contact Megan Roth at 801-838-8014. Mention that you saw it on my blog so she will know where you came from. (and no–I don’t get anything for doing this–not one penny) You can contact me with general adoption questions via commenting, but I don’t know anything more about this situation. You do not need to live in Utah, but will have to come here for the birth.
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This has nothing to do with hair, but I got such a big response when I posted pictures of our adopted son that I thought I would add this as well.
My husband and I opted to use a private adoption agency. We had tried to use a church agency, but found them slow to work with, and quite frustrating. We had a friend that used a private agency and got a baby in six weeks. Then the agency contacted her and told her that they had more babies than adoptive families and were in need of families. So we had our paperwork moved over. Ten days later we were called with a birth mom that wanted to meet us, and nine days later our son was born. It was so fast, amazing, and exciting! We loved our experience, our agency… everything!
Since our agency always has babies (they have placed 85 this year to date) and fewer families, I decided to post about one of their available situations last month on my personal blog. I got a huge response and today I learned that a friend who read my blog, told a friend, who told a friend, and they matched with this particular birth mom! I was so pleased. I truly believe that the right babies find their way to the right homes. I am just pleased to have been a helper in that process.
So I have decided to post periodically about situations on this blog as well. That way we can find more babies homes. This one is a very interesting and special case.
African-American Twins: Boy and Girl
Born November 15, 2008 in Utah.
Premature- 25 weeks, Weight about 1 and 1/2 lbs each. Good Apgars. In Newborn Intensive Care Unit and will be for several months. Doing fairly well right now. On and off ventilator. They still have a long way to go.
Family needs to be from Utah or be willing to be in Utah for months.
Fees are $20,000 with consideration for the outcome of children.
If you know anyone who may be interested…you can email me from this blog or leave a comment. Or you can click here and go directly to Heart to Heart’s website. You DO NOT have to live in Utah to use Heart to Heart. When we were in the hospital getting our son there were two out of state families getting babies too! They have five other situations right now too if you aren’t interested in this one. Check them out!
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Sept 12, 2008
I was thinking today that I should update on the adoption now that we have had a few weeks to adjust and recoup. I only hope that I can do the experience justice.
Every baby is a miracle. But when it takes a series of miracles for your baby to find your home, it feels like a rare and precious gift. Our son is exactly that. We have so enjoyed him! I heard someone once say that “Babies should be dipped in chocolate and sold at Easter time.“ I would completely agree! I find it especially fitting since our little guy already looks like he is dipped in chocolate! LOL… we could just eat him up!
Adoption is such an amazing special experience! I simply cannot explain it. To realize that another mother is willing to give you her baby is quite humbling. There is an added responsibility to love this baby not only for yourself, but for his birth mom as well. Our family has been so blessed to have experienced this adoption. To experience firsthand the fact that you can love someone that isn’t biologically yours as much as any of your biological children… maybe in some ways even more because it required extra miracles to get him to us!
Heavenly Father knew well what he was doing when we experienced secondary infertility, and guided us instead to turn towards adoption. We just KNOW that the little guy is ours!!! We know that we agreed before this life to find each other. Our family wouldn’t have been complete without him in it, and we thank Heavenly Father every day for blessing us in this way!
Added to that, having a transracial family has been a new and exciting adventure. It has added a completely new dimension to our family. I can’t help but think of the scripture excerpt “…become like a little child” when I watch my girls hold him and love on him. Color made no difference to them right from the beginning… they never even noticed that he was different. He was simply their baby brother.
It has been fun noticing more specifics about African Americans and their unique features, learning more about famous blacks in history, realizing that we can celebrate Martin Luther King Jr. and Black History Month in a completely new way, pondering Obama as president in a whole new light, or even having more African Americans than ever before start conversations with us. These statements may seem semi-prejudice, but they really aren’t. I am simply surprised at all the things I am seeing differently now that I have a black son. I have watched as our extended families have adapted and opened their hearts as well.
More than anything else, I just feel like the whole experience has made me a better person. There have been so many eye-opening moments and learning experiences that simply make me more well-rounded in the long run. I have more empathy for people that are infertile. More empathy and understanding for people who are waiting in the adoption process. More empathy for brave women who are willing to give up their sweet little babies. More empathy for other cultures and races. I feel like I have become a more Christ-like person… because of our little man!
We are sooooo grateful for his sweet little personality in our home. He is cuter, snugglier, and more adorable than we even could have ever hoped for! Adoption is truly amazing!
Sept 15, 2008
Today I was trying to think of the perfect word to describe how I feel about our little man. I was thinking maybe Enraptured. But when I posed the same question to my hubby, his response was Enamored. I actually found this to be really funny since both words ended up being synonyms (we looked them up).
Enraptured: To fill with rapture or delight. To have a powerful, agreeable, and often overwhelming emotional effect on someone.
Enamored: To inspire with love; captivate. To cause to feel a strong or excessive interest or fascination.
Other synonyms: enchanted, delighted, charmed, fascinated, absorbed, entranced, captivated, transported, enthralled, bewitched, ravished, or spellbound.
Either way you want to state it–we sure love our little man!
Sept. 25, 2008
Some of you may have already heard this, but I’m posting it now so I won’t forget it. A few weeks ago my MIL was in town visiting. She asked one of our twins how she liked having a new baby brother. My daughter replied with, “He is perfect. He is just the way I like my steak.” We were all standing with confused looks on our faces until she added, “Yeah, dark on the outside… and pink in the middle.” We all cracked up!!! My hubby even shared this over the pulpit at church and it got an irreverant roaring laugh!
Nov 17, 2008
I don’t know how, but our son manages to just keep getting cuter and cuter all the time! He is really quite adorable. He is also sitting up now… all by himself at just under 4mos! SLOW DOWN LITTLE DUDE!!
My hubby keeps sitting him up and I keep saying, “Lay him back down!” I keep thinking of my friend’s saying “Babies don’t keep.”
Here’s a few of my latest favorites.
This has to be one of my all-time fav’s. He’s seriously adorable!!!
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July 25, 2008
I am so tired and really want to go to bed, but I could not think about sleeping without posting about the events of today! It was by far the most emotional day of all!!! Starting last night, I suddenly became so nervous about this morning. I couldn’t sleep, felt like I was going to throw up, feeling so anxious about our birthmom signing the papers today.
My hubby, who is normally the anxious one, was calm as could be. It was a weird switch to our normal personalities. On the way to the hospital, I began crying. I was thinking about our birthmom and what she was facing at that very moment. I simply could not help but feel bad for her. We received a phone call from the caseworker while we were on the way to the hospital… my heart jumped into my throat. Our birthmom did not want to see us today! It is the day she was supposed to sign over her rights, so things were not starting out as we had hoped. Was this the beginning of the end? We became more concerned than ever before. The caseworker felt of our uneasiness and tried to reassure us that our birthmom simply felt like it would be too hard to see us. She did not want to see us with the baby. What did this mean???
So we sat in the waiting room and waited. The social workers checked in with us and said that they felt she would sign. They said that she was in good spirits, but that she was feeling sad for the inevitable moment. We had brought her copies of all the pictures from the last two days as well as a burned copy of all video taken at the hospital. My husband gave her a suitcase (since she never owned one) with these items, other gifts, and a handwritten note letting her know how much we love her. Then we waited some more.
After about 20-25 minutes, the caseworkers came into the waiting room. They looked quite concerned! Oh… no! Their faces were so sullen and sad that I thought for sure they were going to tell us she hadn’t signed the papers. But once we were in the other room they told us we needed to sign our paperwork since she had signed. What??? I think we all breathed a huge sigh of relief!!! (Note: All caseworkers should go through a mandatory training course on ‘facial expressions’ prior to becoming certified… because we literally thought the worst!)
I almost immediately asked how our birthmom was doing. The caseworker said that it was hard, but that she knew without a doubt that he was our son and that we would care for him, love him. She did say that they thought if our birthmom hadn’t loved us so much she wouldn’t have signed the papers. That morning our birthmom seriously thought about keeping him. She relayed to them that she felt very well treated and loved by us and that made the signing easier. He is where he needs to be. The social worker and I both cried for our birthmom as we signed our papers. The signature likely looked nothing like my normal signature, since I was signing with flooding eyes! Our birthmom had asked to be alone with our son for a few more minutes, to which we promptly agreed. That crying was nothing compared to when the nurse finally brought our son into the room to us. That symbolic cutting of the umbilical cord the other day had even more significance as we all recognized that she had just had a very emotional good-bye moment with this beautiful baby boy. No doubt he had received an enveloping love from his mother in that very tearful last few moments. Now he is ours.
As ecstatic as we were, our thoughts quickly came to empathize with the birthmom. Even on the way home, I cried yet again as I thought about her driving off to catch her plane home, alone… and we had her baby in our car headed in the opposite direction. This is such a surreal, unbelievable, emotional roller coaster! This is supposed to be all about happiness, right? I can’t even begin to do the experience justice. I have thought about her several times today and I am sure I will continue to do so for another few weeks. Our birthmom is truly an amazing person, to be able to see past what her heart wants to do and recognize that the best life for her baby was with someone else. I can’t even begin to imagine what courage it took for her to do this at just 18-years old!
So at the end of it all, the papers are signed… he… is… OURS!!! We have our son home with us, and we are just enjoying it all!
My hubby is loving having a son in this house full of girls! My parents put up the “It’s a Boy!” sign in the yard so neighbors would begin to figure it out.
People are coming to visit, most did not even know we were adopting. We are loving the snuggles and the girls can’t get enough of him.
August 4, 2008
I don’t claim to be a professional photographer, but just for fun I took a few shots tonight of the little guy. My hubby keeps sending me messages and pictures of Switzerland (where he is), which is particularly mean since it is the trip I had to give up when our son arrived (although it was a good trade). My hubby is working, but it is Switzerland so I thought I would take some pictures of our little guy to send back to him and make him jealous!
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