Our Adoption Story: Part 9

Feb. 7, 2009

The sealing was absolutely fabulous! At the temple they treated my hubby and I as if we were getting married all over again! Literally! We had our own little temple worker with us that took us everywhere, I changed in the bridal room, the temple workers helped me get dressed (which was sort of funny since they were helping all the other girls with their big wedding gowns and I just had a very comfortable skirt and shirt), they let us spend time in the celestial room before entering the sealing room, etc. It was just fun because I was able to remember little things about our wedding day that I was too anxious to enjoy on our wedding day!

Having all our friends and family waiting for us in the sealing room was awesome! We only missed those that couldn’t be with us! The sealer was great. He inadvertently told a story about the best adoption he had every seen where the boy was a black child and the family was white (he had no idea this was our situation). He went on to call the child, “so black my wife called him licorice“. Everyone was chuckling to themselves as he clearly did not know of our situation. You can only imagine his face when in walks the temple worker with our little chocolate “D” in her arms! His jaw just dropped in embarrasment!

He provided his counsel, more than he had likely intended, waiting for the kids to come up the stairs. But about 5 minutes into his 15 minute counsel, we could hear the kids out in the hall. The sealer must have been a little deaf, because he could not hear the kids.  Little “D” just kept squawking and babbling out there! He was making so much cheerful noise! He was like a spring bird… chirping in the temple hallway! Everyone was having a hard time not laughing. Finally the kids came in… and they all looked like little angels all dressed in their white clothes! They were, of course, starry eyed as they entered.

The ceremony was short and sweet, pronouncing all the sealing blessings on our sweet little “D” as he became eternally ours! It was emotional, yet oh so beautiful!  Little “D” didn’t move the… entire… time… and had his huge baby browns just staring up at the sealer. I think he literally listened to every word (which had us both bawling)! He seemed to know what was going on, almost like he had been anticipating this moment!

After the ceremony, everyone congratulated us and we had the chance to spend a few minutes with the kids as a complete family in the sealing room… gazing into the reflecting mirrors, representing eternity. It was very emotional and such a unique experience this early in our children’s lives! Truly memorable.

Afterwards, we took pictures in our whites outside with the kids, since the weather cooperated, and it was a beautiful warm day for February.

We also ate lunch with many of our family and friends at the Lion House. It was truly a glorious day ranking in my top two (only behind our wedding day)! Life is wonderful!

May 11, 2010

Since I know this is going to become “public” to everyone on my hair blog soon, I thought I would just add one final update. Little D is now almost two years old! How times flies! I’ve just re-read all these post entries and it just feels jst like yesterday that I experienced them. It is really incredible!

I simply need to state emphatically for everyone that this boy is my little man! He is the sweetest, charming, (a little rowdy), little guy and we love him dearly. I can’t, nor do I want to, imagine my life without him in it. I’m so grateful his personality in our home.
(a year ago)

(now)

I was reading another favorite blogger of mine the other day and she was talking about moments when “Your spirit taps your heart” to remind you of the joys of life. I had one of those moments this week. To explain, you must understand that when we go to church my husband does not sit with us in our pew. He is a member of the Bishopric in our congregation and this means he sits up on the stand with two other men, all three presiding over the church meetings. I know this may be confusing to people not of my faith, but ask you to just bear with me.  So I sit by myself in a pew with all five kids. The four girls are pretty good, but The Dude is at that really awful age where he is just too restless to sit still. Instead he wants to run up and down the aisles, screams, kicks, and just generally has a fit if I try to keep him still for too long. On days like that, when I get frustrated by him I often point out his daddy to him and send him up to sit with my hubby for a few minutes on the stand.

So last Sunday my little man ran up, climbed up in his daddy’s lap, and promptly turned around to look at the congregation.  He quickly scanned for me, found me, and gave me this look as though he had gotten away with something naughty! But when he could tell I was looking at him also, he threw his arm up in the air, waved his hand emphatically, yelling (loudly) “Momma, Momma, Momma!” When I and most of the people sitting near us started to giggle, he waved even harder! It was seriously one of those moments when “Your spirit taps your heart.”  This… is our son!

For more information on our experience, incluing a Q&A, read Adoption 101.

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  1. Hello Mindy I just watched your adoption 101 video and xame upon this blog from it. I read this in a matter of 30 min my phone died but got right back to it! I see all your cgh bideos on youtube love your family wish you could do one on sweat pea please its just so touching i have a daughter of my own and know the meaning when you say the baby is ours i dont know about adopting but knowing the love for daxton nd sweatpea seems alike to youre 4 girls thank you hope to read a blog about sweat pea

  2. It was an amazing story. Daxton has grown up and he is an amazing young boy. You all are a beautiful and wonderful family. Paisley is adorable as well and it shows that I hope to be like your family when I get older. It’s a touching story. God bless you and your family

  3. I know this was written a long time ago but I just happened to stumble upon it and I want to let you know Mindy, that you have such a beautiful family. One day, when I have a family of my own, I really hope it is as wonderful as yours. This was such a touching story and I congratulate you and your hubby of your bravery to go through with such a big moment. Your son is beautiful and he adds such a wonderful touch to your awesome family. And now that you have sweet pea, your family is just so amazing. I hope the lord will allow me to have such a beautiful family one day as well…❤️xo

  4. This story was so amazing for you to share! what a roller coaster life before a happy and wonderful ending. My husband and I are expecting our first baby due in February and ever since we started dating we both discussed adoption. I don’t know when we plan to adopt or if we want to continue trying to have our own for awhile but we are planning to go through the process one day and reading your story just made me want to more. However, the timing has to feel right and we have to be emotionally ready for a chance that we don’t make it or receive an amazing child, but even though i am sure i do want to adopt one day your story has made me feel 1,000% about it.

  5. This is indeed a very touching story, no matter what your religion is. Being adopted myself, it is really interesting to see what adoptive parents feel through the whole process since since the “overwhelming joy they felt after 13 years of trying to have a baby shadoes every other feeling” (their words not mine). It’s also nice to know that you got to now the birthmom. Like you said some adoptions are very “impersonal” and that was my case and there’s alot of things that i would like to know that my parents can’t answer, so i think it would be great for your son to know that kind of things. Anyways, just a great story!

  6. Mindy, thank you so much for sharing your story. I have cried, laughed, and can relate to your story a little. My husband and I married in June of 2005 and I found out I was pregnant with our daughter in July. She is now 7 will be 8 on March 3rd. We started trying to expand our family when she was 2 and didn’t have any luck. In December of 2012 I had a miscarriage and was devastated. My first thought was how could God do this to my family when we were trying so hard to have another child. My husband reassured me that God has a plan and purpose for everything He does. So in January of 2013 I had gotten a positive reading on a home pregnancy test when we made the apt with the doctor they told us we were not pregnant, so again here we were faced with another disappointment. I then changed doctors and went to one that was really good in this field, I mean he specializes in this. We prayed for guidance that we were doing the right thing. When we met this doctor for the first time, he told us that if God didn’t want us to have another child that it wouldn’t happen, but with God’s help he would do everything in his power as a doctor to help us. After meeting with him in a months time I had 7 people my husbands mom, my very best friend, my husband, my daughter, my husbands boss, my husbands grandma, and a complete stranger approach me and tell me that God told them to tell me that I needed to plan for a baby. Shocking I know. First reaction was ok Lord you have my attention and I hear you and I am listening. LOL! My doctor had put me on Clomid hate it made me very moody and hormones were flying. I was on clomid all last year. I finally came to the realization that I wasn’t fully relying on God. I know that God is going to bless me and my family with a beautiful baby boy it has already been seen and promised to us. I was feeling discouraged and as I read your story it gave me peace and understanding, and made feel at ease again, thank you so much, and remember to pray for me. Thanks again!

    1. Thank you so much for the feedback, Earlean! I totally understand your desire for another child, and the frustration at it not happening. What I do know is that God love us, and wants us to have families. If we place our trust in Him, in full faith, without placing requirements on Him for how a baby should come to us, He will bless you. I promise you that! I have seen it happen in our family, twice now. You are definitely in our prayers, along with many other mothers out there who are in similar situations. xoxo

  7. I am not religious at all, but I think that the emotions and experiences you have shared with us here are universal. As I am myself adopted it has been very interesting and emotional for me to read how this experience has been for you and your family. I have often talked with my mom and dad about how my adoption was for them, but as none of them wrote journals, some memories are fading. Thank you for sharing.

  8. Mindy, i read your whole adoption story and i am so touched by your story. How even in the hardest of the days, the most stressful, the ones that you feel that God is not with you, that you continue to have faith in the Lord, that he will take things into his hands, that he is saying “step back, and let me take the reigns”. You have an amazing perspective of this whole thing, and i was almost at the point of tears. I think that the the bond between you and the birth mom is so cute. I’m only 12, and have not experienced this, but i feel in a way that everyone can connect with what you and your family were going through. Everybody has those days when you feel like shutting the world out, but God says “its okay, im in this with you”. So i feel that even if we have not gone through this exact thing we can relate.

    Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
    Isaiah 41:10
    Well Mindy, God bless you and your beautiful family, and keep making AWESOME hair styling videos!!!

  9. Mindy, although I am not a very religious as you are, I have to say that I did find your adoption story very inspiring and at moments as you put it in your last blog “I felt as the divine spirit was tapping my heart”(I apologize if its not a word by word quote). And I wish your kids the best, and I promise you this, in the 12 of December when I go to church to thank “la virgen de Guadalupe” for everything she has given me, I will give a prayer to your family and lit a candle in your behalf. I hope that you don’t mind.

  10. What a beautiful story :’) I’m not a religious person but I’m amazed and proud that your family have such strong faith. I hope you, your husband and children as well as the birthmum are all okay and I wish you all the best for the future <3

  11. Beautiful family! I loved reading this story. I came to your blog for ideas on how to do different hairstyles for my daughters, but I was drawn into the story of your family. We are Christian as well, though not Mormon. Anyway, I would love to read your daughter’s adoption story, if you get a chance to post it (with all that free time you must have as a mom of six 😉 Also, my daughter is a quarter black and her hair is really curly but not kinky – would be great if you have any resources/videos/tips on curly hair as well. Thanks, and God bless you!

  12. I am a 20 year old girl, I follow you on youtube and love your hairtutorials. But mostly, I ended up here because just today, yes, beginning of July 2013, I learned that you had two adorable little members in your family that were adopted.
    I was baffled, as I could not understand how had it been even possible not to notice this little fact before.

    I have always thought that multi-cultural families tend to enjoy life at their fullest, and as you said, are more open to opportunities in life.
    I myself am Latin, I do not necessarily fit in the typical stereotype of a Latin woman, but in a way it does represent me.
    And when you are part of such a special family, as is your own, you gain so much respect for that person, for being brave enough to go through something as heartwarming and scary as you did. It brings a smile to your face when you meet someone who has done everything so right, and that you can see and feel how right it is.
    So thank you for sharing your story, I may be here a couple years too late, but it still moved me to the core (tissue in hand and everything!)
    Hope to keep seeing more from your lovely family!
    xx.

  13. I just finished reading you story and it is truly amazing. you have made me want to possibly consider adoption later in life.

  14. I just read your article in the Family Area of the Deseret News. My family is a little similar to yours, but a little opposite. We had one boy, then three girls. I thought I was done having kids and got on the IUD. A few years later I decided I didn’t want to be done and wanted one more. It took me a few months to get my period, I could tell the IUD had messed up my cycle. I became pregnant within five months and then lost the baby at four months. I became pregnant a few months later and found out I was carrying twin girls. I am also grateful for them. Thank you for sharing your story.

  15. Such a beautiful story!!

    In one of the earlier posts you said that your Birth Mum went over a few things with you like how to do his haie and certain moisturisers ect – i can honestly say that that sort of thing has NEVER corssed my mind. I mean ppl have diff types of hair curly, straight, dry, oily ect and you have diff products to use but it was a *huh he has diff colour skin and needs diff products moment* with a forehead meet palm movement.

    Also whats a sealing?

    How old are all you kiddies now?

    Oh and i can’t wait to read about your daughter!!

    1. Allison, I just saw your comment and hope I can help answer your question. I belong to the same church as this family ( I was sealed to my husband in the same temple, by the looks of the pictures!) and we believe that families can be together forever, not just for this life, but after we die and are resurrected as well. For this to be possible, a family needs to be sealed together by someone with the priesthood who has authority. This priesthood and authority is what Jesus was talking about when he told Peter that he gave him power to bind on Earth and in Heaven. So, when a couple, or family, go to an LDS temple to be sealed, they are promised that if they are righteous they will be together forever. I hope this helps answer your question!

      Here’s a link to more information: http://www.mormon.org/faq/topic/marriage/question/together-forever

      If you’d like to ask me any more questions about this, comment back and we can find a way to get in touch 🙂

  16. That is so beautiful! I read the whole thing and it was really amazing to finally see how you adopted your cute little boy!
    ~Hayley

  17. This story made me laugh and cry. It was heart wrenching and unbelievable. The amount of love and blessings in your family will be eternal. You are truly inspiring as a woman, a wife, and a mother Mindy. Thank you so much for sharing your life and experience with us. May god continue to bless and love your family.

  18. Mindy,

    I have just read all of this, I am not religious at all but just reading all of your beautiful feelings, emotions and thoughts nearly brought a tear to my eye. This is extreamly touching, I hope all the best for your four enchanting daughters and you delicious little man!

    All the Best,
    Abby x x x 🙂

  19. Thanks Mindy for sharing your wonderful story. I am also a member of the Church and my three younger siblings are all adopted. I remember being sealed to my youngest sister and it is an amazing experience. I am glad you were open to share your experience! You are very inspiring! Also wanted to let you know that I love your CGH youtube channel and I follow your girls channel! Your family is amazing!

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