Spoiling Your Children | Mom Minute

March 01, 2014

Today’s Mom Minute topic is about spoiled children. We’ve all known some, have spoiled our own, or perhaps even been one.

Spoiled Children | Mom Minute

There is a definitely a huge difference between providing for a child’s needs versus their wants. Trying to satisfy the former is what we are supposed to do. Providing food, shelter, education, physical care, and love, etc, are why we have this very important role as parents. Providing for a child’s every wants can be very detrimental to them. I often think of little Veruca Salt from the Willy Wonka & The Chocolate Factory movie as she whined, “Daddy, I want an Oompa Loompa now!

Kate, a viewer, asks this question, “How can you buy clothes and toys for your kids without spoiling them?

Spoiled Children

Although we are not perfect in our home, we have tried to teach our children the value of responsible hard work from a very young age {examples were provided in last week’s post}.

If you were to ask our children what the response is to asking for toys/electronics/clothes, etc, they can recite the refrain, “Is this a want or a need?” From there, our kids categorize the item into one of the two buckets on their own. If the item is not life sustaining, it goes into the want bucket.

If our children want the desired item bad enough, they will have to earn it. We find that they appreciate the item much more, taking very good care of it, if they contribute with their own money or with sweat equity.

The CGH kids have contributed to the purchases of clothes, extra curricular activities, birthday gifts for friends, field trips, etc, since they began kindergarten. They do not know  differently, and understand that nothing in life comes free.

In just the few hours since the video went live on The Mom’s View YouTube channel this morning, we’ve had a few viewers claim that they feel that we very much spoil our children.

I personally do not feel that we do, feeling more that we go to great lengths to prevent it, but I guess that really depends on where you are standing.

We need to be careful as a society not to judge someone having a few nice things as being spoiled. It isn’t so much about what they have… but how they speak to, interact with, and treat others. Being a contribution to society very much involves accepting responsibility, respecting and helping others, and valuing hard work.

To see more about how to avoid spoiling children, and how to value hard work, please feel free to view the #MomMinute episode below…

What suggestions do you have on the subject?

Please free to leave your comments below…

Happy Parenting!

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Lace Braided Ponytail and Updo | Cute Hairstyles

February 23, 2014

Today’s tutorial is a Style-laboration {style collaboration} with Lilith Moon, one of my all-time favorite hair gurus on YouTube.

We have wanted to work together for several years, but since Lilith lives in France, and we are in the US… the large distance makes it too difficult to film a video in person. So, for this type of a collaboration, we decided that I would recreate one of my favorite Lilith Moon hairstyles, while Lilith recreates her favorite CGH hairstyle for her fans on her channel!

Lace Braided Ponytail and Updo | Cute Hairstyles

Lilith’s most popular video is actually Lace Braided Ponytail, with over 5,000,000 views, and is the tutorial we used as inspiration for this post. Variations of this style have been popular on Pinterest, most likely fueled by Lilith’s video tutorial.

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CGH#3 volunteered to be my model, since she watches Lilith’s tutorials as well, and we included the bonus updo at the end as well!

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Feel free to tag your own photos of this hairstyle with: #CGHLaceBraidedPony

I admire Lilith’s creativity and how well she incorporates extensions for longer hairstyles, while also filming DIY styles for shorter hair. You can find more about her here:

If you are curious to see which of all our 230+ hairstyles Lilith decide to showcase to her fans on her channel, simply click here

I have been subscribed to Lilith for nearly 5 years now, and can honestly say that I adore her styles, her beauty, and her definitely her accent!

Although we have not yet met in person, I cannot wait until we can! I hope each one of you loves her styles as much as we do!

Items Needed: Brush, rat-tail comb, pomade, 1-2 ponytail holders, 1 small hair elastic, 3-4 bobby pins, hairspray and accessory{if desired}.

Time Requirement: 3-5 minutes

Skill Level: Easy

Step-by-Step Instructions:

  1. Begin by gathering all the hair into a high ponytail {an option is to add a single Frenchback, pompadour, or even a little  teasing into the top of the hair first, to accent or add fullness to the hairstyle}…
  2. Wrap a small strand of ponytail hair around elastic, and secure with a bobby pin….
  3. Next, pick up a small section of hair on the right-most side of the ponytail, and begin a regular 3-strand braid…
  4. Once you have complete one single braid stitch, pick up a very small strand of hair from the left most side of the ponytail, almost near the back of the ponytail {the hair needs to come from the underside of the ponytail to create the effect that the ponytail is caged, or laddered, underneath the stranding}…
  5. Add this piece into the left strand of the braid, and again create one more single stitch, which is what created the lace braid {do not add in hair on the right side of the braid}…
  6. After another stitch, again take another tiny strand of hair from the left side of the ponytail, crossing it over the ponytail and add it into the left strand of the simple braid.
  7. You will need to over slightly extend the laddering of the braid as you go down, in order to the right to keep the braid going straight down the side of the ponytail {if you don’t, it will want to cross diagonally over the ponytail}…
  8. Continue Steps #3-6 until you reach a stopping point {you can loosen the ladders from the lace braid slightly to help keep the braid straight}….
  9. When you finish adding in hair, continue with a regular simple braid and secure with an elastic.
  10. To create the updo version: Simply take the completed ponytail and twist it once, wrapping it over the top of the elastic and back again, tucking in the hair ends underneath and securing them with a few bobby pins.
  11. Add hairspray or accessories {as desired}.

Please feel free to leave me a comment below letting us know what you think of this Lace Braided Ponytail and Updo!

As always, if you loved this hairstyle, please feel free to share it!

Happy Hairstyling!

My twins have been asking for months to film a Twin Tag video for their BrooklyAndBailey YouTube channel, which is a video talking all about what it is like being a twin. The girls finally did it, and their interactions and reactions are so funny to watch! Simply click below to see…

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Hard Work and the Value of a Dollar | Mom Minute

February 22, 2014

For my husband and I, both of our families taught us the value of hard work at a young age. It is something we felt was important enough to do the same with our own kids.

Value of a Dollar and Hard Work

Farrah, a fan on YouTube asked, “When should your child get a first job? How can you push them in a positive way?”

First Job

Obviously, we do not have legally-employable teenagers yet, but I do have advice for what I plan to do. This does not mean that I have not been preparing my children from a very young age to appreciate hard work and the value of a dollar.

In fact, just this week I had a parent ask me about how we teach our kids to work.

I went into detail about how we placed our children on salary {allowance} for “additional” household chores when they turned age 5. Keeping rooms clean and regular household chores are simply part of living in the home. Then, for each birthday present I had to buy, field trip or piano lesson I had to pay for, etc, the child had to contribute $0.25 towards it. Very quickly our children started to see that things have a cost, and that money is not plentiful.

{My husband then began a rule that he would charge the kids another $0.25 for lights being left on or outside doors being left open. You wouldn’t believe how helpful this was when it came time that they wanted something, and then did not have enough money to buy it!}

These efforts helped to teach our kids how to not only work for a salary, like in real life, but how to budget and understand the value of a dollar. We even held annual performance evaluations, and offered raises, or bonuses, if results met expectations… just like in real life.

While nobody is perfect in ensuring children learn these valuable lessons, it is important as parents that we do all we can to teach them in a simple and relatable manner while they are young, so each is better prepared for life’s lessons as he/she ventures out in to the world.

To see more about how we teach our children the value of a dollar and hard work in the CGH home, please feel free to view the #MomMinute episode below…

What suggestions do you have the subject, and at what age did you have your first job?

Please free to leave your comments below…

Happy Parenting!

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How to Create an Infinity Bun | Updo Hairstyles

February 16, 2014

If you are looking for Prom hairstyles, the Infinity Bun would be a perfect inclusion!

Infinity Bun UpdoToday’s updo hairstyle is super easy, taking literally like 3 minutes to do! {That really was the point, to create something beautiful and elegant enough to look like you spent awhile doing it, when all it took was just a few minutes.}

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Please feel free to tag your own photos of this hairstyle with: #CGHInfinityBun

Plus, you can use the bun in any number of updo combo styles, along with accent braids, pin coil accents, pancake braids, curls, etc!

To show you how to create an Infinity Bun, we began with a simple Frenchback in the front top, and incorporated it into a high ponytail. The instructions for the Infinity Bun further below take it from there.

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Brooklyn wore this to a dance last week and had several compliments on it. This hairstyle is appropriate for all ages, little girls and tween on up to grandmothers – especially for activities such as formal dances, ballet, work, or everyday wear!

Also, be sure to keep an eye out for our CGH App, which will be coming out later in March! It has been fun working on the app, and makes the portability of our hairstyle tutorials to the bathroom counter much easier, and includes a place to see fan hairstyle recreations as well!

Enjoy the video!

Items Needed: Brush, rat-tail comb, spray bottle, 2 ponytail holders, 6-8 bobby pins, hairspray {if desired}.

Time Requirement: 3-5 minutes

Skill Level: Easy

Step-by-Step Instructions:

  1. Optional: Begin by adding curls, a braid, or twistbacks, into the ponytail to add some texture and to accent the bun…
  2. Begin by pulling hair back into a ponytail {this looks best if the ponytail isn’t too high or too low, mid head is perfect}…
  3. Now, begin twisting the ponytail counter-clockwise and slightly upward towards the top of the head…
  4. As the twist tightens, it will naturally want to twist up on itself, to use that to begin to form the left loop of the infinity bun, in a counter clockwise direction…
  5. Still twisting the hair the same direction, take it up toward the top of the head, in a clockwise direction, and begin to form the second loop, thus completing the sideways figure  infinity shape…
  6. Because the second loop will have less hair than the first, feel free to loosen the twist a little to add volume, so that the bun looks balanced…
  7. If you have left over hair ends, while holding the whole bun in place with your left hand, simply tuck them up under the edge of the original loop…
  8. As you continue to hold this shape, place bobby pins approximately every inch or so, depending on hair weight and thickness, to secure the bun firmly in place…
  9. With the bun secure, you can go back and smooth any fly aways as needed with hairspray {if desired}.

Please feel free to leave me a comment below letting us know what you think of this Infinity Bun updo! As always, if you loved this hairstyle, please feel free to share it!

Happy Hairstyling!

Brooklyn and Bailey decided to give you a tour of their newly-decorated room {which was part of their Christmas/Birthday presents this year}, and uploaded the video to their BrooklyAndBailey YouTube channel. It was a fun project for mom, dad, and the twins! Simply click below to watch…

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Girls and Makeup, at What Age is it Appropriate?

February 15, 2014

Many of you know that we’ve been asked the mascara question regarding my daughters’ eyelashes a million times since we started this hairstyle website back in 2008.  {Viewers often thought that I used mascara on my young daughters.} As you have come to know me and my family, you can see that those are my girls’ 100%natural eyelashes.

This does bring up an excellent question, however… “At what age is makeup appropriate for our daughters?”

Girls and Makeup | At What Age is it Appropriate?

The answer may vary, depending on the parents and also the child. There really isn’t a right answer, although we can all agree that lots of makeup on girls at a young age isn’t the norm. {Dance recitals, and other events of the like, excluded.}

In our home, my girls have always loved lip gloss and Santa usually provided some each year in their Christmas stockings. By age 12, we allowed Brooklyn and Bailey to wear a little mascara to help accentuate their eyes. By age 13, we allowed them to use a limited amount of concealer or powder to help hide acne.

Today, at age 14, my girls can wear pretty much what they want, and I am happy that they have decided that less is more!

My mantra with the girls is, “Makeup should only be used to accent your natural beauty, not cover it up.”

If you are looking for a little extra help, many makeup stores and counters will have cosmetologists who are more than happy to give you and your daughter a beginner makeup training. {Also, my twins are posting a video series on their YouTube channel, BrooklynAndBailey, where they teach beginner makeup tips.}

To see more about our position on makeup in the CHG home, please click the #MomMinute episode below…

What suggestions do you have on age appropriate makeup for girls? At what age did you start, and with what?

Please free to leave your comments below…

Happy Parenting!

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