Parent-Teacher Relationships | Mom Minute

June 01, 2014

With five of our six children in full day school, we’ve definitely learned a thing or two about how important it is to have an effective parent-teacher relationship.

Parent-Teacher Relationships

Today’s question comes from Susah, who asks, “How do you approach a child’s teacher when you disagree about a grade or think they are being unfair? How involved should you be?”

Parent Teacher Conferences

My first response is to say that you should be as involved as you can be. But, be open in how you approach the teacher knowing that you simply cannot have all the facts.

I am happy to say that we’ve been blessed in nearly all of the individual 31 combined school years our children have gone through, to have had AMAZING teachers. {Some of them were so invested in the success of our children’s lives, that they even follow this blog to this today!}

That isn’t to say that along the way we have not had one or two conflicting stories from our child vs teacher about a missing assignment or failed exam. In these cases, it is so easy to pent up rage against a teacher while listening to our child recant how unfair or belligerent the teacher was while addressing the problem. Sometimes we just want to let the teacher have it via phone or email, or go over the teacher’s head and call up the principal to lecture them about how this educator does not belong at the school.

The best thing we can do in these cases is to never assume our child is 100% correct. In fact, a better practice would be to accept only 50% of what they say as possible fact… the rest is likely exaggeration.

Next, schedule a parent-teacher conference where you can discuss the problem with the teacher openly. {It may be helpful to bring the child with you, because in an open discussion, it will be much harder for your child to exaggerate circumstances. Please know, at this point, the teacher is likely spending more time with your child in the waking day than you are.}

I have found that 99.9% of the time the teacher is truly invested in the growth of our children. I find that they appreciate, even embrace, parents like you who take an active role in your child’s education.

I am convinced that the most ideal environment for the success of our child’s education is when parents and teachers have an open line of communication, meeting often, and working together to ensure the child is progressing. An easy way to do this is to volunteer, if you can, in the class room.

My opinion is shaped from my own experience, plus hundreds of discussions over the years with my mother-in-law, who has been an elementary school teacher for over 30 year.  Also, over the years, I am proud to say some of my closest friends have come from among my children’s teachers! Some follow up with my kids even today, often congratulating my girls via my Facebook page for their many accomplishments.

In today’s discussion, I invited Traci Demuth, a teacher and Ed.D candidate, on the #MomMinute show to discuss how to foster effective relationships between parents and teachers. Click below to view…

For any of our readers who have managed effective parent-teacher relationships, what advice to you have for Sarah for how you were best able to do so? Please free to leave your comments below…

Happy Parenting!

Comment on this post »

School Bus Driver Teaches Kids a Lesson | Memorial Day Hero

May 27, 2014

I know this post has nothing to do with hairstyles, but this story shared by my twins Brooklyn and Bailey was simply so inspirational… I had to share!

My children had to make up a snow day at school yesterday, yes over Memorial Day, which didn’t sit super well with them, of course.

Yet we tried to stress to them the importance of remembering the purpose of Memorial Day, for family members and friends who have passed on and especially for those military men and women who died for our great country.

With the stresses of a few finals yesterday, we’re not sure anything we said sunk in.

On the way home from school, near the end of the bus route, it began to rain. Not a sprinkle of rain, nor a drizzle… but a huge DOWNPOUR!

Before our kids knew it, the bus rolled to a stop by the side of the road.

With everyone looking around to see what was the matter, the engine not running the bus driver set the emergency brake, quietly put on his hat, opened the door, and stepped out into the pouring rain. There was a collective groan from the remaining kids thinking that the bus had somehow broken down, right there on the side of the road.

It was a national holiday, and the kids had to go to school. Many of them had family visiting from out of town, and were so eager to get home and spend time with them. {I am sure there were plenty of BBQ’s, and cousins to play with.} A bus breakdown was the last thing they needed. Period.

As my girls turned to the window to see what the bus driver was working on, this is a snapshot of what what they saw…

Memorial Day Bus Driver

During the stormy downpour, one of the American flags posted along the sidewalk of a neighborhood {in commemoration of Memorial Day} had fallen to the ground.

This bus driver noticed it out of the corner of his eye, and acted in a way I am not sure many of us would.  He quickly, and without word, resolved to once again give this flag its opportunity to wave, in honor and love, to those who gave everything for its symbolic legacy.

As the bus driver, soaking wet, boarded the bus, he took off his hat. He sat down and once again continued the bus route. As he did so, one by one, the remaining few children began clapping for him. Some even stood.

My twins learned a great lesson yesterday, they said it was emotional for them, and that respect and national pride became contagious.

This was a simple act, for sure, but one that communicates much more than on face value. Perhaps this bus driver had a parent, grandparent, child or grandchild who served in the military. Maybe one of them had died in that service, we do not know. Quite possibly… maybe he himself is a veteran.

This dear school bus driver, in what is likely one of the most unappreciated and thankless part-time professions, taught my children the true meaning of patriotism and respect for those who had sacrificed all for the freedoms we enjoy.

On this Memorial Day, Mr. Bus Driver, you are our hero!

Comment on this post »

Dealing with Divorce | Mom Minute

May 24, 2014

Todays #MomMinute topic is about dealing with divorce. While it hasn’t shown up often in my life, we do have a few cases of close family members or friends who have gone through a divorce.

Dealing with Divorce

Today’s question comes from Olivia who asks, “My parents just got divorced, and do not get along. I feel like they are making me pick sides. I do not want to lose either of them. What do I do?

Dealing with Divorce

I believe that in some cases divorce may be merited {such a physical, mental, and sexual abuse}, and in others it may not be {infidelity, mid-life crisis, pure selfishness, etc}. Every situation is different, and we really shouldn’t judge because not only is it wrong to do, but we may only know a sliver of what has really happened.

What I do know, is that in many cases the children are indirect victims who often impose the blame on themselves. This is where the heartache comes in for me. Worse yet, are situations where the parents politic the children to choose sides, which is such an unfair situation to place them in.

My counsel to anyone in this situation is to be honest with your parents about how you feel.

Many of you do not know this, but Shaun’s parents divorced just a few years ago. The kids were all grown, which certainly made it easier, but the process was still a little hard on them. Fortunately, the divorce is fairly amicable which took a lot of dedication from both parents. Shaun’s advice to both parents while they were going through the divorce process was, “It’s more important to do what’s right, than to be right.

{That’s actually advice we should all take and live by on a daily basis, eh?}

Along with being honest with your parents, etc, something I neglected to state in the video is to find someone else you can confide in. Whether it be a counselor, teacher, priest, extended family member, or a friend, find someone who can let you vent, cry, laugh, and love. Going through a divorce as a child is something very difficult to manage alone, and reaching out to a 3rd-party loved one may just give you the extra strength you need.

What I can say is that your parents love you dearly! They’re simply are at a point in their lives where they need to take a step back and identify who they are.

Keep your head up, try love them a little more, and honestly let them know that your relationship with them now no longer includes the other parent. If you tell them that lovingly, they should quickly understand and do their best to respect your wish.

What I hope you always remember though, is that you are NEVER alone! There are more people who love you than you likely recognize. I heard a quote once that testifies of that, saying “God works approximately 10,000 miracles in our daily lives… however we only recognize about three of them.

For any of our readers who have gone through divorce, what advice to you have for Olivia for how you were best able manage and overcome that process? Please free to leave your comments below…

Happy Parenting!

Comment on this post »

Organizing Morning Chaos | Mom Minute

May 18, 2014

For the longest time, mornings have been the hardest part of our days. Not that the carpools after school are not daunting themselves, but that to get six children ready for the day in the shortest amount of time is very… grueling!

Our Morning Routine

Today’s topic comes from a question by viewer Vicki, who asks, “What’s your family’s morning routine? How do you get so many kids ready and out the door in the morning?”

Morning Routine

I actually get asked this question a lot. Once Brooklyn and Bailey began school, we started waking up at 6 am. Yes, sometimes even 5:30. You can tell if you watch our earliest videos.

We needed that extra time to get the girls dressed, hair styled, fed an appropriate breakfast, give them time to practice the piano, pack a healthy lunch, and hold family prayer and scripture study.

As our other kids reached school age, the routine was already set and the older girls began helping with the responsibilities. Attention to logistics and time was key. It’s almost like things were running in “stations” in order to get it all done.

Today, with five children in school and two bus pick up times, we really have to run the morning efficiently or someone is going to miss the bus!

Click below for see and hear more details on our morning routine…

For any of our readers, what ideas do you have for the rest of us moms on how to help make the morning routines run more smooth? Please free to leave your comments below…

Happy Parenting!

Comment on this post »

Happy Mother’s Day | Mom Minute

May 11, 2014

Happy Mother’s Day to all you amazing moms out there!

I have been a mother for over 14 years now, and I have lots of Mother’s Day memories, among all the many other wonderful memories I have with my family. There is certainly more to life than hairstyles!

Mother's Day Memories

For those of you who celebrate Mother’s Day today, don’t forget to give her a big hug and tell her how much you love her and how much she has meant to you. For those of you who live a distance from your mother, please give her a quick phone call to tell her the same!

For those who are not yet mothers for health or other reasons, we also celebrate this day for all womanhood. It isn’t just about being a mother, because the impact we have as women on our significant others, friends, and children around us, is not only important… but great!

Lastly, for those of you whose mothers have passed on from this life, please take a moment to reflect on the marvelous impact she was in raising such a wonderful young lady, and thank her in your own way.

As a mother, there is nothing more important to me than my family.

Mother's Day Memories

For today’s #MomMinute video, viewer Chelsea asks the following question, “What is your most memorable Mother’s Day memory?

Simply click below to hear my thoughts…

For any of our readers, what are your favorite Mother’s Day memories, or what do you do for your mom to help make her feel special? Please free to leave your comments below…

Happy Parenting!

Comment on this post »



About Me

What do you get when you cross 34 yrs of living, 14 yrs of marriage, one HOT husband, five adorable daughters, one handsome son, and tons of great family and friends? Pretty much the sum total of who I am!!



Follow Cute Girls Hairstyles's board Cute Girls Hairstyles {Photos} on Pinterest.

Causes I Believe In


Little Heroes Locks of Love

Other Stuff

Follow on Bloglovin


Want Our Button?
Cute Girls Hairstyles



Like what you see here???
 Subscribe in a reader

or

Enter your email address:

Delivered by FeedBurner